HOW TO REFRAME YOUR FEAR AND LET IT WORK FOR YOU

Do you ever get uneasy, or even afraid, when you’re close to achieving something big in your life? I do!

I began estimating the results for my latest campaign based on those early results and didn’t like where things were going. I started messaging members of the team, asking questions, reworking our strategy, and adjusting our tactics. Almost immediately, the results began to improve.

The truth is, I feel profound unease every time I do something important. But I don’t let that stop or slow me down. I recognize it for what it is - a normal part of the process. When I do that, I’m free to get past it. How?

1- When the feeling of fear first comes, I experience it down deep, like it’s actually part of me. But it’s not. And when I take the feeling from an internal, subjective experience to an external, objective fact, I can look at it, evaluate it, and put it into perspective.

2- Reframe the feeling. I’ve given hundreds of speeches, but whenever I prepare to go on stage, I experience some level of fear. After years of practice, however, I’ve trained myself to process that feeling differently. When I begin to feel anxious, I tell myself, "my body is just preparing itself for peak performance: I’m amped, alert, and ready for action".

By reframing my emotion, I can turn what’s otherwise debilitating into something motivating. If you ever freeze, seize, or cease to be your normally confident self in the midst of something major, I bet you’re wrestling the same enemy. The key is recognizing it for what it is and then using it to your advantage.

Whenever we have the potential to do something important or extraordinary, we’ll be tempted to stay inside our comfort zone. But the truth is we never do anything of real significance in our comfort zone. The base jumper who listens to his fears is just another hiker who walks down the mountain.

It’s when we’re stretched, face our fears, and reframe them that we can reach out and touch greatness.

What could happen in your life if you were brave in that one decisive moment when the fear made you want to quit? 

THE POWER OF THE MINIMUM EFFECTIVE DOSE

It’s easy for me to overdo things. I know, shocker. What can I say? I like getting things done. But the problem is that when I overdo, I underperform. We need to get to the bare essential of the bare essential.

For people driven to achieve, it’s a common trap. Even if we pare things down to the essentials, we can plow so deep into those that we’re just wasting our efforts, even while we think we’re making headway.

Instead of being satisfied with an effective level of engagement, we go over the top. It might be exciting at first, but it’s not sustainable and will actually set us back.

I’m all for playing full out, but if you play full out on everything at all times, you’ll just burn out. - or lose heart.

• We want to boost sales but wear out our audience.
• We want to lose weight but overdo it at the gym.
• We want to build our platforms but flame out from overposting.
• We want to improve our pace but get injured from overtraining.

So we quit, and I’m sure we can all think of other examples from our lives where we’ve done that. All our productivity was really counter productivity. We need to get to the bare essential of the bare essential.

In the book The 4-Hour Body, Tim Ferriss uses the concept of the minimum effective dose, the MED. He defines it as “the smallest dose that will produce the desired outcome.”

He applies the MED primarily to fitness, but it’s a useful concept in a lot of other areas. It’s a good way to fight back the temptation to overdo something. "Anything beyond the MED is wasteful,” he says, offering this example:

"To boil water, the MED is 212oF (100oC) at standard air pressure. Boiled is boiled. Higher temperatures will not make it “more boiled.” Higher temperatures just consume more resources that could be used for something else more productive".

It’s a good example because we’ve all boiled water. We know what the minimum effective dose looks like and how pointless it is to try for more.

The problem is that we also know at exactly what temperature water boils. Our work, fitness, and other areas of life don’t have set levels so we have to experiment to find them. But it’s worth it.

I used to recommend blogging five times a week. For some time now I’ve blogged once or twice a week and have seen the same level of reader growth. By cutting back the frequency I freed myself up to do other things.

Your MED is probably different than mine. But your MED might also be less than what you’re doing right now. Wouldn’t you like to save that time and energy for something else? To make progress on the things that matter most, we can’t afford losing ground by trying to do too much, even if we’re trying to do the right things.

What’s one activity you could reduce by half and still get the desired results?

WHY YOU SHOULDN’T BOTHER MAKING NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS!

New Year’s resolutions are as old as time, but that doesn’t mean they’re very effective.

About billions usually make New Year’s resolutions, and another 50 million sometimes do, according to research by the University of Michigan.

The same research says most can of us stick it out a few weeks, but after six months fewer than half are still going. Only 8% of us are actually successful. Some industries even count on us giving up. Fitness centers, for instance, sell year-long contracts knowing most of us won’t actually show up more than a few times. Their business model depends on most members getting distracted, overwhelmed, or uninterested.

This is about much more than numbers, of course. It’s about people’s dreams. Most New Year’s resolutions are about health, wealth, relationships, or personal development. In other words, they’re about the kind of things that matter most to us.

I’m sure you have your own personal stories of starting the New Year strong only to get busy, fall behind, and eventually lose motivation. It’s happened to me. And it’s exactly why I don’t bother making New Year’s resolutions anymore, at least not the usual kind.

How to make resolutions that really stick

Some dreams are just too important to entrust to a faulty system. Instead, I utilize a proven goal-setting process that incorporates safeguards for many of the things that cause typical resolutions to fail. It’s taken me years to develop this process, and I’ve seen it work not only in my own life, but also in the lives of countless people with whom I’ve shared it.

Some people will say that the best way to make our resolutions stick is to only pick one or two for the year. But that’s leaving too much on the table for me, and probably a lot of you too. We’re talking about the things that matter most, right? Why leave so many things undone and miss so many opportunities to grow? Instead of cutting back, we just need to bone up on a system that actually works.

Life’s too short for typical New Year’s resolutions that are almost guaranteed to fail. It’s time to make progress toward the things that matter most.

THE POWER OF BELIEF

Just as what we believe with great intensity can destroy our life, so it can also save it - and vice versa.

I once read a very interesting story in a Dr. Lair Ribeiro's book. It was about a beggar in the United States called Charles Harris: "One Friday afternoon, Charles was looking for a place to shelter himself during the night. He found, in a railway station, in an open carriage and entered. As he closed the door, he realized he was in trouble, literally, for it was a refrigerator wagon! He tried to open the door, but there was no way he could do it from inside. He started feeling cold. Found a pilot pen on the floor, used to mark the meat, and began to describe his sensations on the wall of the wagon. He felt his hands freezing, his teeth creaking with cold, and he began to wonder what it would be like on Monday when they found hi body lifeless. He was experiencing the effects of the gradual freezing of his body. It was when, without strength to continue, he collapsed on the floor."

However, this story has a fundamental detail: the wagon was in maintenance that weekend, which means it was off! At no time has the temperature dropped to less than 10° C. This is the power of belief, the explanation for what happens in our lives.

Gradually we are establishing a belief system that directs our thoughts. Thinking generates behavior, which generates consistent action, which generates positive habits, which generate results, which generate new beliefs, thus generating new thoughts...

Here is the cycle of success! If you think you are a winner, you should think like a winner, and then you will behave such as one. As a result, your actions and attitudes will be winning, generating the positive result that will make you believe that you are truly a winner, and so you will think as a winner with a lot more intensity, and then ... Can you see where that will end? Just as what we believe with great intensity can destroy our life, so it can also save it - and vice versa.

It's up to you to decide on what to believe.

I hope to meet you on the road to success. If you need any little help, count on me.