HOW TO BECOME THE MOST VALUABLE PLAYER ON YOUR TEAM

All the major sports leagues celebrate their best players. But what if there were a most valuable player award for your team? Would you take home the prize?

Being the owner of my school - AGN Schools Consultoria em Idiomas e Traduções - I established different awards for individuals. The winners received public recognition, banners, trophies, and prizes. I love giving these awards. Without the contributions of these valuable team members, my company would have made measurably less progress in achieving our mission. Instead, I achieved more as a directly result of their efforts - it's good to say that I've never had any advertising campaign, and in 11 years I have already opened 3 branches in 3 major cities (São Paulo, Rio de Janeiro e Brasília), just the "mouth to mouth".

After all these years leading my team, I do know what works for companies, nonprofits, small organizations, ministries, and creative collectives looking to make a difference.

Let’s be clear about one thing up front: It’s not about being a hotshot. We’ve all been around people with tons of talent who were a liability to the group. Talent is never enough.

São Paulo Team

Here are seven tips for becoming the most valuable player on your team - even if you don’t think you’re the most talented member:

1- Play till the whistle blows - Don’t walk off the field in the game. Even if you’re behind - especially if you’re behind - you can make a winning contribution. But you’ll never do it if you quit early.

2- Practice good communication - For me that all comes down to clarity, responsiveness, and frequency. Be clear, don’t bottleneck information, and keep everyone who needs to know in the know as often as they need to know it.

3- Work hard - More accurately, work harder than you think you need to. Doing the minimum will win no points with people who are putting in extra effort. If you have more to give, do it.

4- Share your best - If you want to serve your team members, don’t hold back. Creativity, talent, learning, insight - they can make all the difference in the final outcome, so share your best stuff.

Rio de Janeiro Team

5- Own your mistakes - Responsibility is the mark of a strong team player. If there’s a problem and it’s yours, own it. Accountability frees people to work on the problem, not fester about the one who created it.

6- Affirm others - Team spirit is critical for victory, and everyone on the team is responsible to improve the mood if possible. Catch others doing good work and call them out.

7- Be positive - By its very nature, cynicism kills teamwork. Unlike constructive criticism, it’s defensive and self-indulgent. It’s designed to protect the cynic at the expense of everyone else. A positive attitude about problems is the best way to help the team get past them.

Michael Jordan said "talent might win games, but it takes teamwork to win championships". You may not have any control over the level of your talent, but you have a lot of control over your character and how you interact with your team.

To achieve its goals, a team needs members who give their all, give their best, and play to win.

Brasília Team

HOW TO REFRAME YOUR FEAR AND LET IT WORK FOR YOU

Do you ever get uneasy, or even afraid, when you’re close to achieving something big in your life? I do!

I began estimating the results for my latest campaign based on those early results and didn’t like where things were going. I started messaging members of the team, asking questions, reworking our strategy, and adjusting our tactics. Almost immediately, the results began to improve.

The truth is, I feel profound unease every time I do something important. But I don’t let that stop or slow me down. I recognize it for what it is - a normal part of the process. When I do that, I’m free to get past it. How?

1- When the feeling of fear first comes, I experience it down deep, like it’s actually part of me. But it’s not. And when I take the feeling from an internal, subjective experience to an external, objective fact, I can look at it, evaluate it, and put it into perspective.

2- Reframe the feeling. I’ve given hundreds of speeches, but whenever I prepare to go on stage, I experience some level of fear. After years of practice, however, I’ve trained myself to process that feeling differently. When I begin to feel anxious, I tell myself, "my body is just preparing itself for peak performance: I’m amped, alert, and ready for action".

By reframing my emotion, I can turn what’s otherwise debilitating into something motivating. If you ever freeze, seize, or cease to be your normally confident self in the midst of something major, I bet you’re wrestling the same enemy. The key is recognizing it for what it is and then using it to your advantage.

Whenever we have the potential to do something important or extraordinary, we’ll be tempted to stay inside our comfort zone. But the truth is we never do anything of real significance in our comfort zone. The base jumper who listens to his fears is just another hiker who walks down the mountain.

It’s when we’re stretched, face our fears, and reframe them that we can reach out and touch greatness.

What could happen in your life if you were brave in that one decisive moment when the fear made you want to quit? 

WHAT SEPARATES THE SUCCESSFUL FROM THE UNSUCCESSFUL

People often ask me how I’ve been able to build a successful business that’s that has survived two big crises and has been steadily for the last 11 years.

I had similar wins in the corporate world. I was able to set some audacious goals and beat them again and again. This has been a pattern for me professionally, but I have a secret: I’ve never assumed I could do it on my own. So how have I done it?

Here’s the answer: I always invest in the best training I can get my hands on. As far as I can tell, that’s the main thing that separates the successful from the unsuccessful. It’s how I’ve been able to consistently grow both my leadership and my business.

I stress the word invest. I’ve utilized plenty of free resources over the years, and there is some amazing help to discover in something as cheap as a ten dollar ebook. But the real jumps have been when I’ve matched the money to the momentum I expected to achieve.

You get what you pay for

There’s nothing magic about a price tag, but there’s also truth in the old adage that you get what you pay for. I have paid hundreds of dollars for conferences, consultants, coaches, and online courses over the years and without exception these investments have been the catalysts for breakthroughs in my business.

One reason is that the cost demands my full engagement. I’m not about to waste my hard-earned money. But that’s not the main reason. It’s not even the second or third.

What we don’t know

Most of us experience those times when we want to get to another, better place. It could be in our professional or personal life. Regardless of what it is, we feel like we’ve plateaued and we don’t know how to get to the next level. It feels like we don’t know how because - are you ready for this? - we don’t know! We all have certain insights and skills that have gotten us to where we are. But those insights and skills may not be enough to go beyond.

I’m not going to improve my swimming until I know what improvement looks like. In the same way, I’m not going to grow my business until I know what to do differently than I’m doing now. That’s where premium training comes in. It’s an infusion of information that you can leverage to go to the next level.

3 Reasons to fund four own success

The right training may cost you. In fact it probably will, and it might cost you a lot. But I think there are three key reasons we have to be willing to invest in ourselves:

1- Mindset - We know what we know, and it’s not always enough. That’s not only true for the bare facts and data we need to learn, but it’s also true for the different frames of mind, the different angles, that we can’t just generate on our own.

2- Strategy - There are two ways to learn winning strategies: We can get it by trial and error - usually lots of error - or we can have someone else give us the inside scoop, saving us tons of time and effort. Even if it costs us money in the meantime, if it’s the right information, it’ll save us that in the long run too.

3- Skills - Sometimes the most important thing we need to learn to go to the next level is a simple skill set. Ballroom dancing is great example. So is time management and the kind of productivity hacks that lop ten hours off your workweek. To win in certain areas, you need specialized skills - and you can pay someone to teach you. I’ve always followed this basic assumption, and it’s true for all of us: To be successful, we need teachers, and our success is worth funding.

What have you done and invested to take your business to the next level?

THE POWER OF BELIEF

Just as what we believe with great intensity can destroy our life, so it can also save it - and vice versa.

I once read a very interesting story in a Dr. Lair Ribeiro's book. It was about a beggar in the United States called Charles Harris: "One Friday afternoon, Charles was looking for a place to shelter himself during the night. He found, in a railway station, in an open carriage and entered. As he closed the door, he realized he was in trouble, literally, for it was a refrigerator wagon! He tried to open the door, but there was no way he could do it from inside. He started feeling cold. Found a pilot pen on the floor, used to mark the meat, and began to describe his sensations on the wall of the wagon. He felt his hands freezing, his teeth creaking with cold, and he began to wonder what it would be like on Monday when they found hi body lifeless. He was experiencing the effects of the gradual freezing of his body. It was when, without strength to continue, he collapsed on the floor."

However, this story has a fundamental detail: the wagon was in maintenance that weekend, which means it was off! At no time has the temperature dropped to less than 10° C. This is the power of belief, the explanation for what happens in our lives.

Gradually we are establishing a belief system that directs our thoughts. Thinking generates behavior, which generates consistent action, which generates positive habits, which generate results, which generate new beliefs, thus generating new thoughts...

Here is the cycle of success! If you think you are a winner, you should think like a winner, and then you will behave such as one. As a result, your actions and attitudes will be winning, generating the positive result that will make you believe that you are truly a winner, and so you will think as a winner with a lot more intensity, and then ... Can you see where that will end? Just as what we believe with great intensity can destroy our life, so it can also save it - and vice versa.

It's up to you to decide on what to believe.

I hope to meet you on the road to success. If you need any little help, count on me.

FOUR WAYS TO BEAT THE RESISTANCE AND REACH YOUR GOALS IN 2018

It’s about that time you overcame what's holding you back. Based on the statistics, a large percentage of people who made New Year’s resolutions are thinking about throwing in the towel. Some already have.

According to research from the University of Scranton, nearly 4 out of 10 people quit their resolutions before reaching the month of December. Even more will fall off after that. But what about you?

If you’re like most people, you have goals for your health, relationships, faith, wealth, or personal development. These are the things that matter most to us, and yet it can be so easy to start with the best of intentions and flame out after a few weeks.

What’s Stopping You? The Resistance

Life happens. Given all our personal and professional demands, it’s no wonder we get distracted, feel overwhelmed, or find ourselves wrestling along the way with doubt, discouragement, even fear. But what if we didn’t let all of those demands and distractions have the last word? Since our goals represent the things that matter most to us, shouldn’t we fight for them? Aren’t our greatest hopes worth overcoming the resistance?

The person who popularized the term resistance for what we’re talking about here was Steven Pressfield in The War of Art. It’s been a pivotal book for me. In fact, I recently listed it as one of the 30 best business books I’ve ever read. Pressfield says that we encounter the resistance any time we try doing something important. It could be improving our health, writing a book, reaching a financial milestone, getting our inbox to zero - we’ve all felt it a hundred times. I’ve already felt it this morning - twice.

But there are tactics we can employ to beat the resistance and accomplish the things that matter most to us. I've picked four of the best ones:

1- Stay connected to your why - I’ve been teaching this tactic for a while because it’s the core of any important goal. Let’s face it, unless a goal is motivated by something big, it’s just another way to kill time.

When we hit the wall, when you feel the resistance, the answer is to remember why you wanted to go over it to begin with. If you goal is about improving your marriage, get reconnected to what that would mean for you and your spouse. If it’s about losing thirty pounds by the middle of the year, remember what that will mean for your energy and long-term health.

We have to imagine our desired outcomes and stay emotionally connected to them. Our dreams deserve at least that much, don’t they?

2- Keep your negative emotions at arm’s length - While we need to stay emotionally connected to our why, we need to push any negative emotions we experience to the side. We don’t have to shut them down. In fact, we shouldn’t - they can be useful. But we shouldn’t let them dominate.

I watched a documentary about Valery Rozov, a BASE jumper who leapt from the face of Everest. It was the highest base jump in history. But as cool as the jump was, what stayed with me was Rozov’s approach to fear. He says that he feels several emotions that we usually call fear, but he separates himself from them, minimizes them, and then jumps anyway. Rozov is in control, not his emotions.

Pressfield says that the resistance is always internal. It’s not the facts of the case that are the problem, but how we emotionally respond.

Fear, doubt, disappointment, feeling overwhelmed - we may experience these emotions, but we don’t have to let them dictate our actions. We can notice them for what they are, and then just keep moving forward.

3- Find someone who’s already done it - Since the resistance we feel is internal, many obstacles we face to our goals are just in our heads. If we can see the possibility of pulling it off, we can usually pull it off ourselves.

I’ve written before about the pathbreaking accomplishments of Roger Bannister and Chuck Yeager. Here’s another amazing example. In the middle 1980s skateboarder Mike McGill did the first ever 540-degree aerial turn in his sport. No one thought it could be done, but once McGill finally did the “McTwist,” everyone started doing it.

And once McGill paved the way, others pushed it even further. Tony Hawk did the first-ever 720-degree turn. And then in 2012 Tom Schaar - at just twelve years old - did the first ever 1080. That’s three full rotations in the air! “It was the hardest trick I’ve ever done, but it was easier than I thought,” Schaar told ESPN.

Overcoming the barrier once means that overcoming it again - and doing even more - becomes imaginable, maybe even inevitable. Tactically, what that means is that we should find people who’ve done what want to do or can show us how. If we can see the road, we can walk it.

4- Get the help you need - I don’t know why we make this one so hard. A goal represents new ground, new territory. That means you won’t know how to traverse it. That reality is actually essential to establish compelling goals. Once you have a reason, the resources will start to materialize. But sometimes we feel like we have to go it alone. Why?

Resources are more than time, talent, and money. Information, experience, and training are also important. And you can buy those - at least indirectly. I decided on some significant health-related goals for myself recently. I’ve been running for years, but I knew that running alone wouldn’t get me where I wanted to go.

I also knew that I didn’t want to waste a lot of time trying to figure it out. The delay would possibly dampen my spirits. So I got a personal trainer who developed a plan for me and is helping me, day by day, reach my goals. Sometimes all we need to overcome the resistance is a hand. Why fly solo when the right copilot can get us to our destination?

Millions of us start the year with high hopes, but lose altitude within weeks. We don’t have to join that number. Our goals are too important to let the inertia and difficulties of life stop us. The resistance is real. But we can overcome it, instead of letting it overcome us.

Then we can look back at the hardest thing we’ve ever done and say it was easier than we thought.

What could happen in your life if you could punch through the resistance and make it happen in 2018?

LACK OF COURAGE TO ACT? TO CHANGE?

Have you stopped to think about how many times in your life you have used your courage to move forward? Or even if the lack of it has made you stay in an endless zone of comfort?

It is important to be aware that you are stimulated by some kind of motivation and that you must understand what the reasons for taking action are, and of course, to find out why you are often stagnant. These are vital factors for the growth of your results.

Sometimes you know what you want, you really want to achieve something, but you don't even move toward to your dreams. Do you know the motive of their moorings? What standard behaviors come up in times of internal or external crisis? Are the locks part of the game? What do you do to connect thoughts and feelings to concrete and effective action? That's a lot of questions, isn't it?

Starting the process of discovering these issues strongly supports your internal changing process and a consequent external change. Yes, knowing your potentials, your limitations and your motivations open paths never known before. The search for self-consciousness gives rise to incalculable advances which it is unlikely to achieve without first taking this important step.

What do you need courage for? For new steps - those you know and plan, but stay motionless when faced with obstacles? To make a personal or professional decision, albeit in an apparently safe scenario? To be different, to understand, to respect and to use your talents in all the means in which you live? To paddle against the tide, be that person who is always working for mental, physical, psychic well-being, no matter how favorable the environment is? To give a new idea in the work environment? Working with oratory? To shine?

And this much mentioned courage, where does it come from? It is usually a personal or professional need to move forward on something that is very much desired to achieve and that this internal decision of maturation and learning is already taken. Be aware on  the next steps and consequences so that you can overcome any obstacles that are in the way to be trod.

Realizing yourself about something new requires daily exercises, and your mind is the most adaptable way to arrive at this result. Everything that passes through it generates and registers emotions and thoughts that lead to action or reaction. It is necessary to observe your behavior patterns, your beliefs, your emotions and your thoughts, only by lighting this light, "zooming in" is what makes it possible to perceive what limits, what drives, what prevents it from winning or makes it a winner.

Actions are, for the most part, reactions of the thoughts and feelings that are linked to the subconscious mind, and thus automatically lead us to reckless or undesirable attitudes in the face of situations. It is necessary to know what beliefs are positive in your life so that you can use them in order to boost your chances of strengthening and advancement. In addition, you need to become aware of beliefs that you have since childhood and cause you to have thought patterns and behaviors that limit you. in order to transform them into potential beliefs. Countless times you encounter life challenges and you do not know where to draw the courage to reverse the situation.

Then the memories of the triumphs you have had in life can and should support you in identifying what feelings, thoughts, and attitudes you had in that scenario when success came. To rescue this memory and to use it in favor is exalting because it takes away the drama and creates an antidote for this saboteur.

Find models of people who inspire your evolution, this exercise may surprise you when your motivation needs to be watered. For courage to be with the flame burning it is necessary that daily find your motivation for that goal. Get in touch with him through the acknowledgment, gratitude and celebration of every little or big step taken in your direction.

If you are the type that believes in a better world, then create a better world because nothing changes if you do not change. And if you want to change your life, change your tuning, listening to the same radio every day will never give you the opportunity to hear new styles of songs. You can start over, exercise your mind to get different results.

Want a tip? Use your senses in favor of redesign. Repeatedly speak on the day, preferably out loud, what you want to achieve, your goals for that day or week, always have positive words to say, and direct your conversations to relevant issues that support your growth. Listen to what you and those around you are talking about, observe what you hear from you and others has pleased you, have been positive, and select what you should do from now on. Everything else, discard. Just listen to what will support you.

Visualize results as you will be and feel when you conquer it. Notice what feelings are flowing at this time and how your body and mind behave. After all this self-observation, you gain self-confidence, self-love, and security, then get up and do it. COURAGE!

Since you are in charge, then order it already, tell your mind that you can, deserve, and will get what you want. That will overcome this need and achieve its merit so dreamed. Do not allow yourself to sabotage.

What posture have you been keeping in front of your challenges? How many times do you use your fear more than your courage? How have you been dealing with these mediocre results? Yes, mediocre because they are medium-sized, comfortable, maybe even uncomfortable, but not enough to stir up their courage alone.

For this reason I give you support tools to overcome this seeming deficiency more and more. What do you gain and what do you lose by allowing courage to dominate you? And letting fear overpower you? Try to know the results of this reality that surrounds you. Notice if there are moorings in your body, for it "speaks" if something is out of context. Manage thoughts and beliefs, be aware of the feelings and thoughts that surround you and dream, dream big, dream big, because it gives the same job of dreaming small. Who is afraid of growing, dies small. Do not be afraid of not giving, you can and deserve to shine. Re-evaluate how the vicious circle walks and transform it, raise your self-esteem, for life begins at the end of your comfort zone, be free to be the best of you, your best version. Start where you are, use what's best, and do all you can to get there. Make a plan and follow it, have A, B, C plans and how many are needed to follow your planning, priorities, urgencies, delegate actions, discard possibilities if they prove unnecessary, set deadlines and find out what for each action .

If you exercise your mind, reprogramming and giving new meaning to words and attitudes, you automatically feel stronger and safer to take new steps, to dare, for only those who dare grow up, only dare who have courage, because fear must rather exist , but only to be a caretaker of your exaggerations and impulses, never to paralyze you when you need it most. Because those who have the courage, ACT, and those who act, advance, have gains, learnings, achievements and feel on the skin the wonderful adrenaline of overcoming. Be you the change you want, potential you have and if what you lacked was courage, it ends here.

Life is a gift, recommence, reprogram, redesign, plan, follow your plans, meet your deadlines, have models, LIVE intensely, open your heart, release your body from the moorings and take your feet off the ground. FLY, allow yourself to dream, believe that it is possible to reach, use your COURAGE in order and be very HAPPY!

LIVING YOUR LIFE ON PURPOSE, OR DRIFTING?

Many people are passive spectators, watching their lives unfold a day at a time. They may plan their careers, the building of a new home, or even a vacation, but it never occurs to them to plan their life.

As a result, when they get into their 40s, 50s, and 60s, many of them are left wondering what went wrong. Perhaps their health is failing, their marriage is broken, or their career is stalled. They have become a victim of the drift.

Many people get distracted with their life. They look up and find themselves far away from where they thought they would be at this point in their lives. You can avoid the drift, by following these three steps:

Become aware of your current location. Wake up. Where are you in relation to where you know you should be? Don’t beat yourself up. Simply acknowledge your current reality. You can’t go somewhere else until you acknowledge where you are right now.

Decide where you want to go. The essence of life planning is envisioning a better future. Let yourself dream. What kind of health do you want to possess? What kind of marriage do you want to enjoy? What kind of career do you want to have? Why settle for drifting to a boring, or even dangerous, situation.

Start working toward your destination. Once you have acknowledged where you are and decided where you want to be, you can begin paddling in the direction of your goals. Yes, it will take work. But, when you have a plan, everyday becomes an opportunity to move toward your destination.

You may feel that you’ve drifted too far off course to get back. This is simply not true. It’s never too late. You can harness the power of incremental change over time and get back on track faster than you think.

OUTSIDE THE COMFORT ZONE - WHERE IMPORTANT THINGS HAPPEN

You’ve probably experienced something difficult. Maybe it was learning a new skill, meeting a new person, or taking on a challenge you’d never done. We don’t often enjoy these things when they are happening, but, looking back, we have to admit: this is where the growth happens, this is where the solutions are, and this is where fulfillment resides - In short, the really important stuff happens outside our comfort zone.

Therefor, how can we maximize these moments outside our comfort zone?

Acknowledge the value - Reality is that we move toward what we esteem. The first step is simply to confess that getting out of our comfort zone is a good thing. Say it out loud if you need to: “Getting out of my comfort zone is good for me!” Remember, unless you do so, you won’t experience the growth you want, the solution you need, or the fulfillment you desire.

Lean into the experience - So many people shrink back whenever they experience pain. The problem is that this can become a habit, or worse, a way of life. Instead, embrace the discomfort. Move toward it. This is an important step in accomplishing anything significant. We have to go through the realm of discomfort to get what we want in life.

Notice your fear - If we feel anxiety or fear, that’s normal. But, and this is critical, we don’t have to be controlled by it. Yes, it can be an indication of danger. It can also be an indication that we are on the right path and about to experience a break-through. Just notice the anxiety or fear but keep moving forward. Often, the ability to push through fear is the only thing that separates those who succeed from those who fail.

Don’t over-think it - This is my biggest temptation. I want to know the entire path. I want a map to the destination. Alas, I rarely get one. But that’s okay. We all really need is clarity for the next step. When getting it, take the next step in faith, believing you will be given the light you need to take the next one.

Play full out - It’s easy to get timid when we move outside our comfort zone. We think maybe we can just ease into it, kind of like sliding into a cold swimming pool. Not so much. Better to jump in with both feet. It’s not usually as bad as we think. We have a better chance of success if we give it our all.

Celebrate the victory - Historically, I have not been very good at this. As soon as I accomplish something, I check it off and move on. But I am learning the importance of marking the moment, recognizing the achievement, and expressing my appreciation to those who helped make it happen. It’s important for you and for them.

Pause to reflect - It’s also important to take a little time to process your experience. What did you do well? What would you do differently next time? What life principles can you distill from the experience that will help you in your next challenge? It’s worth jotting a few notes in your journal or, if this was a team effort, scheduling a time to debrief.

If you are out to accomplish significant things in your life, you are going to be spending a lot of time outside your comfort zone.

You might as well get the most out of it.